so, lets speak about parenthood.active protection vs. passive protectionform vs. let it formI had real life give me a great analogy. I was cycling towards a family in a mixed cycling/pedestrian zone, here in Zürich. They occupied most of the space, I approached with decreasing speed, foreseeing a possible collision through human misjudgement. The father on the left, the 4 year old boy more in the middle, but closer to the left, the mother with a bigger distance to her son on the right. The boy saw me coming, he and I knew how I will pass without endangering him, he was not scared. The mother sees me coming, doesn’t lock eyes with me long enough to understand, I’m vigilant and well aware, instead reacts in panic, jumps in to the empty space between her boy and her and pulls him into the middle in a protective gesture, my path through, the one the boy knew I was going to take. So, I had to break all the way to a stand still while smiling at the mother, thinking, thanks for this great analogy.Long story short. Really protecting your child is almost never an active form, but rather a passive one. The active form cripples, the passive one supports.